Intimacy Coaching for Men
As men you are often concerned with giving someone else pleasure..doing her. You try to figure out what "she wants." Often you become so preoccupied and anxious about performing on her, that sex can seem like work (for you both!) By assuming responsibility for her pleasure and doing it right, you often lose touch with feeling your own sensations, pleasure, and joy.
Further, as a man you've been conditioned from a young age not to trust your "feeling body" or show your emotions so you could seem strong and in control. Early masturbation practices (full of shame for all of us) habituated us to come quickly, silently, and in a routine fashion, which are not useful practices for partner interaction. Growing up male, your genitals became the little critter on the front of your body that was always doing the wrong thing. In early lovemaking, you often disassociated from your body trying to prolong your arousal.
In private erotic coaching sessions with me, old habits fall away and you learn new skills to cultivate presence, comfort, and connection with your body which translates into becoming a better lover. Simple and elegant activities teach you how to use your mind, breath, and body to connect with your sensations and the moment. You begin to notice, observe and experience your body rather than to think, control, and judge from the head. You enjoy a feeling of ease, pleasure and prolonged Erotic Trance.
You learn the art of receiving pleasure—opening the body, heart, and mind to take in more fully. Magically, deeper receiving translates into deeper giving. In the mutual exchange of pleasure you learn to trust and express your longings instead of being shamed by them. You learn to say yes and no, and lead and follow with your partner while savoring a steady, heartfelt connection.
As we mature our sexual potential for coming together fully ecstatic grows. Common ground between the sexes expands. Men slow up and want more intimacy; women stop apologizing for their natural eroticism. Our aging bodies translate into opportunity for richness, vulnerability, truth, and the best loving of a lifetime.
- You desire to feel more sensation in your body, want to explore new erogenous zones in the Body Erotic, and experience heightened and prolonged realms of ecstatic pleasure.
- You'd like to express your desires comfortably (without expectation or pressure) with your partner, and enjoy passionate encounters that are playful and authentic.
- You're ready to grow your sexuality by engaging, consciously and consensually, in fantasy and role-playing as a way to integrate and heal your hidden, shamed parts and erotically charge your sexuality.
- You will notice enhanced bodily sensations and feel a new joy and freedom from being in your body.
- You practice giving and receiving heartfelt touch that knows only the moment without pressure to go someplace.
- You learn to express desires without shame or attachment to the outcome, and mutual play with a partner that is spontaneous and playful.
- You'll celebrate your Sacred Embodiment so joyously that the angels will be envious and desire to trade in their immortality for a touch of what we have (if only briefly) on Earth.
Join me in this discovery of what it means to be alive. Come to my door with a soft heart, an open mind, and enter with curiosity and a sense of wonder. Journey into the heart of your sexuality with a skilled teacher and trust the joy you will find there.
